…what I mean by Life Artistry is referencing how we all can find the means by which we creatively find solutions and inspiration in any given situation. As a child, I managed in my own way to find happiness.
Joy was readily accessed when outdoors exploring the natural world or indoors creating new ‘masterpieces’, transforming fabric scraps into clumsy dolls clothes, or any of the absorbing tasks available with tasty ingredients in the kitchen. Circumstances did not need to be favorable for any of this happy-finding ability to arise; I had the innate ability to allow this. In adulthood, it’s our task to do the same.
Being fully with my client in a deeply focused manner. Listening and hearing beyond any words spoken where a kind of magical space develops, bearing witness to a transformation that permits, that facilitates, a new knowing. A new, truthful, sense of self will emerge.
It’s alchemy at its finest – the raw materials forged through the heat of examination bringing forth the gold of self-knowing.
It’s commitment, it’s dynamic, it’s often not so pleasant… yet we’ll find laughter as well as pensive moments… it’s a commitment to journey to a place better than the spot left behind, it’s a dropping of old unnecessary baggage that enables, through the lightening of the load (emotional, psychological) the discovery of YOU and the life YOU want to be living. And that can be true even if nothing external in your life changes. YOU change. It’s where joy is found.
We’re all unique, although our issues will overlap, how we respond or react will vary, and how we decode or decide our way out of the habitual self-defeating patterns has to be permitted to develop in a manner appropriate to the individual. Feel the joy! Don’t wait until… until when???… Feel the joy, be happy now for no reason.
I help by delving alongside you into the thought processes that are likely to be driving you to those areas that do not help with your relationships (with self and/or others), that often lead you to poor judgment, depression, foolish eating habits, and just awful conclusions about yourself or others. The poor self-esteem that this results in IS avoidable.
The way I do this may look deceptively simple from the outside. The energy expended and the depths of my care and understanding while we work together are impossible to quantify, perhaps best described as being catalytic.
My approach can be incredibly helpful during recovery from narcissistic abuse, particularly when rebuilding confidence and needing to stabilize the constant pull back into the negative thought patterns that will keep you stuck. We’ve all had some experience of bullies and narcissists at some point in our lives; anyone who has endured this type of abuse for lengthy periods will benefit from the attention I can provide.
Whatever your reason, it can be just as vague as some kind of existential confusion; if you’ve reached a point where you want to know more and better about yourself, then let’s get going.